The dating game isn’t always a breeze. For most, it’s difficult enough, regardless of your age, background, ethnicity, religion etc., so when it comes to dating when you’re young and going bald, it’s not an easy place, and yes I can say this with confidence because I’ve been there.
If you’ve read my story then you’ll know that I started losing my hair around the age of 17, I was at the prime time in my life, the moments when I was young, confident and chasing girls.
If you’re a young guy and you are losing your hair then I know what you’re going through, I really do.
I can still remember the feelings, that deep-rooted insecurity and lack of confidence that seemed to take over all rational thought, it caused me to become even more anxious, especially about asking a girl out on a date, my initial thoughts was always the same – they will just laugh in my face and gossip with their friends, or worse still, say yes with no intentions of turning up, just to cause further humiliation.
All of these things I thought about on numerous occasions when it came to asking a girl out, so it seemed the simplest thing to do was not to bother.
This, however, is the totally wrong thing to do, totally.
So you’re making excuses to yourself not to abandon the dating scene because you’re worried about your hair loss, I get it – you don’t want to put yourself in the awkward situation of being asked about your hairline or thinning hair, well my friend, I’m sorry but it’s time to man up and get on with it.
We all have to deal with rejection, it’s part of life – it’s going to happen to the best of us no matter how good looking, confident, or successful you are, rejection happens.
So when dealing with rejection don’t just blame your appearance, your hair (or lack of it), there are many factors as to why someone gets rejected, the way you look might only be one small factor or it might be the biggest, the trick is to never let one rejection stop you from trying again, and again, and again if that’s what it takes.
Never settle for second best
I have met many a man that has just gone along with things because he didn’t think much of himself, (hair or no hair).
Settling for second best will only cause you more problems later in your relationship, it’s better to keep on trying rather than taking home the second prize.
I honestly believe there is someone out there for everyone should they wish to go looking, sometimes it just takes quite a bit of searching and rejection. Don’t focus on those rejections or the ‘ones that got away’, look at the now and the future as you never know who you might meet, you just need to be a little brave, stand tall, you will look more confident, more attractive and desirable.
If you are a young guy reading this and you are feeling insecure about the way you look then just remember, dating is game, you have to play it to be in with a chance of winning, so get out there and play, don’t blame everything on the way you think you look, be brave as you’ll never know where it might take you.